Hello. I started a post, which grew to a lengthy letter and then started to become a book so I had to stop myself and regroup. Now, I'm going to try to just ask one question and go from there...
Question: Is it possible for someone who has been diagnosed with dementia to cover it up or to actually be "doing better" than they were six months ago when the diagnosis was confirmed?
Some background: Sister has had a few health scares the past couple of years. She was diagnosed w/ dementia two years ago and a second opinion confirmed it six months ago. She is physically feeling better and sounds good on the phone and says she's "back to normal". She says she's fine, which I guess she is in her reality. I even start to think "maybe she is fine" after talking to her on the phone a few times; however, I am reminded the diagnosis is true when I visit. My doubt that she is "back to normal" and doing fine is b/c there is a lack of food w/ nutritional value in the fridge, she eats very little when she makes herself meals, she doesn't take her meds on time, she appears to have difficulty when doing things around the house that require multiple steps to complete, and computer/financial activities confuse/overwhelm her. Plus, she has always been good at not letting on that things are not "wonderful". This may all be fine for her, but it is super concerning to me. Since the last health scare, she allowed us to hire a caregiver to come a few days/week. She was even open to moving to an IL/AL campus. However, she doesn't want to move now that she's feeling "better" and believes she is fine and nothing is wrong. I keep trying to get her to move to IL b/c I believe that she has dementia and am worried about her living alone. In addition, it would be helpful for her to be closer and get familar with new surroundings for whenever the dementia worsens.
I've been reading posts here for a few months and appreciate the supportive nature and experience folks share.