How do I confront my grandpa's home nurse about gossiping?

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I am a caregiver of my grandpa. There's a home nurse that visits him once a week to bathe him and check his vitals and chats with him. My grandpa loves her company she is about 10 years younger than he is and he has a crush on her. They are both widows. Recently, my mom who works with my grandpa's nurse said that she said that whenever she comes visits my grandpa that she always sees me wearing an apron, which is true. I always wear an apron because I cook, prepare meals, and clean up. So I dress very casual for my "position" because what I do is physical labor and I need to be comfortable in grandpa's house. It is not like I am sitting there like a princess or working in an office dealing with customers. My mom told me that I should change my clothes when his nurse arrives because how I dress embarasses her and in her home health company people gossip. My mom is not my grandpa's caregiver, she is only his POA.

I do not know how to confront my grandpa's nurse about what she said. I thought she was a very positive person and I like her alot because she reminds me of my grandma (who passed away last year). It seems like people find it easier to gossip and complain about others than to confront them. If the nurse would just ask me herself why I wear an apron all the time she comes and visits, I would have told her why. Any suggestions?

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Wow, you are a very good person. You all seem to be doing a very good job. I wouldn't let the apron thing bother me too much. Your mom shouldn't let it bother her too much either. This is really petty on their part.

My daughters are nurses. And yes, there is entirely too much gossip among them and their fellow employees. I would speak to my mother about why she would be embarrassed over an apron when you are helping your grandpa and doing it cheaply.

As I say sometimes, some people can't see the forest for the trees. Take care.
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My mom is my grandpa's POA (power of attorney). She is also a home nurse and she works with my grandpa's home nurse. they work for the same company.
Their home health company is a gossiping mecca. They all gossip about each other. My mom gossips too.
My grandpa is with this home health company because my mom works for that company. His medicare pays for the home health visit nurse and doctor.
My mom can not be his home nurse because my grandpa will refuse to let any relatives of his bathe him so he trusts my mom's coworker because they are in the same age group, both widows, and he has a crush on her and loves her company. She is like a younger version of my grandma (my grandpa's late wife who passed away last year). We all like her.

No, I do not work for my mom's company. My mom and my aunts pitch in and pay me a monthly salary for being a caregiver to grandpa. The salary they pay is not much (they actually underpay me) but since I am a single mom with a young son and also live with my parents for financial reasons. I need to do my part otherwise, me and my son would be homeless. I do not live with grandpa, my sister who lives with him does but she works during the day and she comes home at night after I leave. By that time, grandpa has already been fed and given all his meds. All she does is keeps an eye on him. But that is a different story.

I'm scratching my head and wondering what I should say to my grandpa's home nurse when she visits tomorrow that I feel offended that she notices my apron as if I'm suppose to dress nice or something. But being a caregiver is a lot of work. I understand some caregivers do not do much but the quality of care I give my grandpa is very high because grandpa raised me and was like a father to me and now I'm being there for him so he doesn't go to a nursing home.
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As I reread your post, does your mother and this nurse work together at the same business. Are you also an employee?
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What????? You are cooking, cleaning and doing what all for your Grandpa? And your mother and a home health care nurse are complaining about you wearing an apron? Give me a moment here.

These two are the most ungrateful people I have ever seen. I would say "fine Mom, you do it for a while". Give her the apron and go do something fun. Your mother should not only defend you but explain the hard work you do daily for your grandpa. Are you being paid for this? Or is this a job you do out of love?

I can't imagine why a nurse would care what you wore. I would love to hear from others on this one.
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My grandpa's home nurse visits him tomorrow. Hopefully, I can get some insight from this forum by then. I feel offended by her gossiping about me but I don't want to lose her as my grandpa's home nurse either. My grandpa likes her very much.
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