I'm 52 and both parents are 78 with multiple medical issue. I recently took over their finances - I pay the bills, give my mom 4 checks a month for cash, etc....I go over to the house at least twice a week...my son and I help with yard work, cleaning, etc. My dad no longer drives ( mom does) so if my mom needs to go to a doc. appt. or elsewhere requiring a driver I do it. I go to the bank with my mom if she has questions about something...she is slowing getting things confused. I have shown up at the ER all the times in the last year (several!) they have either fallen or had a mini- stroke, etc.... You get the picture...they are increasingly needing more and more help.
My dilemma is I really need to supplement my families income with some sort of part time work...but aren't I already working a part time job now with all that I do for my parents? I want to be available for them as the siblings are minimally and grudgingly involved. If I didn't do this stuff they would have to pay someone anyway. How about me? Since I know everything about their finances they are in a position to pay me (and my mom does sometimes give me gas money as I live about 10 miles away) a small amount each month.
I am the sibling who has a one income family and the least able to incur all the expenses for helping mom and dad. It sounds like sour grapes but it's not. I have made peace with the fact that I am the caregiver and my siblings will not step up.
It just feels so wrong or off to ask my parents for a paycheck? know what I mean?
Thanks for listening!