What do you do when your sister has POA over your father who has dementia and you are worried? My dad developed dementia about 8 years ago. At first, my sister, my brother and myself discussed what would be best for him. My brother lives out of state and has not had much to do with my dad over the years since my mom passed away. When dad was still in his own home, my sister and me would take turns going over to check on him and care for him. It finally became evident that he could not live alone. My sister decided he should move in with her. She bought a house and had it remodeled so that he would have his own area (small bedroom, kitchen area and an area with a table in front of the window to sit and do puzzles etc) He has been living with her for over 7 years. The first year I would go over once a week to shower him but after that, we had some issues because she didn't feel I was doing enough. Since then I have taken him home every other weekend, and for around 21/2 months out of the year I take him every single weekend. I never asked for money to do this even though i knew she was taking expense money and money for remodeling and stuff. For the first three years not even money for supplies. It wasn't really too big a deal for me. He wasn't difficult and we didn't need the extra money. The past few years dad has been regressing and is not a full time job to care for. He is incontinent of both urine and bowels, periodically he falls and his behavior is getting worse as well. I approached my sister about looking into options for him and she went off on me about never putting dad in a home. I get this. don't want to either. My concern is that my sister and he significant other have health problems and dad is only going to get worse. I want to have a plan for him in case she can't take care of him anymore. I'm also getting pretty burned out with the weekends and am afraid to approach her on possibly giving me more money so I can hire someone to help me. I work 40 hours during the week, sometimes bringing work home. My biggest concern is his money. Now, for all of you people who right off the bat think that i am accusing my sister of being a thief you are dead wrong. I KNOW that she deserves compensation for caring for him. But I would like to know where he stands financially, which she doesn't share. I have a rough estimate of his monthly income but have no idea what his expenses are or how much money goes into compensating her. Several years ago, he tried to get her to share his monthly finances with him and she no longer speaks to him and he is also not allowed in her home. So it is a bad situation. When he comes to town, he has to stay with me and visit with dad at my house. I would like to be prepared for what is surely to come in the future. Do I have any legal right to demand information? I'm worried about starting a battle.