My father was moved last week to a different Nursing home in a secured unit. My father is a separate issue as he has his own issues that could fill a book.
My concern is this:
Within the Memory locked unit, there is a woman named Sue. She is very thin and She has dementia. She seems like a very nice woman even if she walks around crying at times and the first time I saw her, she hugged me very tightly and the aide said, well Sue is a hugger. I said it was no problem.
Sue keeps touching herself in her private area and making sounds like she is in pain there. One of the staff said that she has a prolapsed uterus and that medicaid will not pay for the surgery.
I was a bit outraged as it appears that she is in a bit of pain and walks around like this all the time. This angered me so I "planted" a gripe at gripevine.com. This website is a nifty place that allows you to voice an issue and the site contacts the entity to inform them about the gripe and tries to get resolution to the degree that you indicate. So, I planted a grip for the Department of aging and disability in my town. I was not so much blaming them but blaming medicaid who I was told, refused to pay for this surgery. I wanted to see if Dept of aging and disability would look into the issue.
Ok, so I went .to visit my Dad today. While waiting for a nurse, Sue came out of her room with only a short on and was throwing a blanket in the hallway. Through the glass doors I was able to see her from the back and my mouth dropped in horror. The situation that this woman is living in is horrific. Her vagina is so prolapsed that she looks like a man from the rear.
I almost want to cry thinking about it. I told the aide that I was going to contact someone as I consider this abuse. The aide said that she had been trying to let the medical team know how bad it is but that no one can do anything for her. This is a terrible and abusive way to live. The caregiver said that the tip of the uterus is red and irritated. So is she has any incontinence, she immediately goes out of her mind.
I need to contact someone but the problem here is not the nursing home as they are trying to take care of her the best way that they can. Apparently it just isn't on the medicaid formulary as something that they will cover. I have thought about trying to contact a Urologist to see if they might donate their services to take care of her. Anything to help this poor woman. I would love to report it to APS but then the nursing home would come under scrutiny and they are as frustrated as I am.
Does anyone have any good suggestions? My heart is bleeding for this poor lady. She cannot ever sit down because of her condition. The only way she can deal with it is to stand or lie down. This to me is a serious quality of life issue. Please help me figure out what to do. I can go whatever route i need to. I could publicize it to the police or press if I thought it would help.