My mother has been the full-time caregiver to my dad during his decline with terminal cancer. It's always been about him, but I'm becoming concerned about her well-being after observing signs of burnout: short-term memory lapses (asking me a question, I answer, 2 minutes later asks me same question again), distractibility (I will be speaking to her and her attention suddenly goes to something else and she doesn't hear me anymore, very unlike her), general scatterbrained-ness, fatigue, frequent headaches, not as able to handle as many things as she used to (at first my brother and I wondered if she was making excuses or just overly doubting her abilities). I live an hour away and come over often, usually wanting to visit but instead ending up cleaning the house, fixing things, helping with assorted tasks-- often things she could have handled on her own 2 years ago. Dont get me wrong, I'm not bitter about her needing my help more. I'm just concerned that her mind and personality have changed so much. Sometimes I worry she has early signs of dementia, other times I assume its just burnout, sometimes I wonder/worry whether her mind will get better after he passes. I'm planning on bringing some of these things to her attention in a very gentle manner, suggesting her getting a physical, finding support groups, maybe informing the hospice nurse or case manager of my concerns... Not only do I worry about my father's anticipated passing, but now I worry about my mom's mental and physical health. I'm only 26 and its so hard to see them both this way.