My father in law fell and broke his hip (he's 95 with lite to moderate dementia). He had surgery to repair last week and is in a skilled nursing unit at the assisted living center where he lives. We are concerned that the level of attention is very low and are considering hiring an assistant to be with him when we are not. The questions are numerous and may seems simple but none in our small family has gone thru this (no spouse, just a son and a daughter):
- are we hovering too much (neither of us have children so no experience there)
- are our expectations of care to great?
- should we consider moving him?
With his dementia, he does not remember his fall nor the surgery. He tries to get out of bed. The shilled nursing unit refuses to put rails on the bed, saying that would be a form of restraint, which they cannot do, based on licensing only as assisted living. We're at wits end without knowing what to expect.