My mom chose this retirement community that is 5 hours away.
She was independent, then she started showing signs of dementia so was moved to assisted. As dementia progressed she started getting paranoid and began calling 911. She also was apparently annoying staff with her constant requests. I knew she would eventually need Memory Care but the place made the decision to move her I think too soon, but they were threatening to kick her out. The move was traumatic for her and she took a HUGE step down. I am so angry at them because it feels like they pushed her off a cliff. The last coherent conversation I had with her was the day before they moved her. Then she came back a bit, never to where she was before the move though, but she was doing alright. Then she fell and was hospitalized. She was very difficult in hospital and when they released her her place put her into Skilled Nursing. I asked if she got better they would return her to Memory Care and they said yes. I visited and she is doing much better than they said. They made it seem like she was terminal. She is the only person in Skilled Nursing unit who can walk. She is the only person who can talk. So there is no one else to talk with or be with. Mom was a very social person. Whenever I called Memory care to talk (they had to remove her phone because of 911 calls) she was always doing PT or listening to a musician who comes there, or walking around the unit. Now in Skilled Nursing when I call she is always just laying down in her room.
This is so difficult, but having to deal with these administrators is making it much worse.
They refuse to move her back to Memory Care.
I think because the administrator doesn't want to deal with her.
And or they are soaking her financially.
I am worried they are making her more miserable than need be.
I know they are making me miserable having to battle them.
I just want her back in Memory Care.
It's so strange that she is the only mobile and verbal person in skilled nursing.
They say her disturbances, lack of compliance with taking meds, and incontinence are keeping her out of Memory Care.
She is strong in her body and honestly I think she could live for several more years. Unless they make her so miserable she gives up.
Anyone else have problems with the decisions of the home?
Sorry for rambling. I am struggling with depression myself.