Two years ago, my husband and I moved in with his father to care for him. I quit my job after we learned that he could no longer be alone all day.
Currently, we do not pay any rent ( the home is paid for ). We buy all the food, and pay for maintence issues, concerning the house.
My husband's hours have been cut, so money is tight. I cook all the meals, clean, shop, laundry and run my father-in-laws errands. I also, keep track of his expences and pay the bills.
I wanted to get a part time job, but now that is out of the question. He is due home from rehabin a couple of weeks. We promised him that he would not go into a nursing home. He will need full time, around the clock care, assistance with bedside commode, served meals ( been doing that for months), as well as all the previous duties. I do prepare special, soft meals for him, as he no longer wears his dentures.
Should I expect some type of small, monetary pay per month? He does receive more than enough money to do this. I do not expect much, but a bit would help tremendously.
I did call care givers and the charge is any where from 20-25 dollars an hour, three hour minimum.
Please, no harsh comments. He asked US to move in with him, and I have given up a lot in the process. Not so much my husband, as he still works.
I am also thinking of asking for him to pay for some type of respite care a couple of hours a month.
What is a fair amount? I am thinking a $ 100.00 per month.