Telling one family member one thing and turn around and telling another the exact opposite. After a bout of colon cancer and a colostomy, we made the decision to all live together to help dad. He wasn't eating right and was having difficulties living on his own. We have lived together 3 years now. We have been thru back surgery, eye surgery, colostomy, reversal, depression, falls..... We are the only source of help for dad. Yet we find that he will tell us one thing, and turn around and tell other family members the opposite thing - leaving us to look like the bad guy. The last thing was I asked him if he wanted me to get the Christmas tree down from the attic and decorate it. He said no, he did not want to bother with it and did not want to move anything to make room for it. Within one week he told his sister on the phone that no, his tree was not up because my husband is too busy to get it from the attic????? While this may seem little - stuff like this happens ALL THE TIME and makes us feel no matter what we do, it is never right. Why does he do stuff like that?, when we were the only ones to step up and take care of him so he did not have to go to a nursing home?