Hi. I am mainly interested in the opinions of health care professionals that have dealt with issues like this before.
My Mother is 96 and has resided in a nursing home for 6 years now. She has osteoperosis and weighs about 75 lbs. She has a fair amount of dementia too. She recognizes me and we converse, but it is a confusing type of conversation. In other words, she is able to speak intelligent sentences, but her facts are sometimes very unclear.
I got a call from the nursing home last week and they suggested, based on the resident doctor's advice, that my Mom be initiated into what's called "Comfort Measures Only". From several people, I have gotten many differing opinions on this, including completely opposing views from 2 registered nurses.
The doctor's reason is that Mom has very poor nutrition and is losing weight. However, she has weighed no more than 80 lbs ever since she was admitted to this facility. I do see she has very little appetite, but I dont see an overwhelming weight loss over the past 6 years.
And on the other hand, Mom does experience falls from time to time, and occasionally breaks a bone. I worry about her falling and breaking something critical, like her neck (which she actually did break in 2008. That was a horrible experience and difficult recovery).
So my question is, is putting my Mom in "Comfort Needs Only" appropriate under these conditions? Mom has lived a long life and I dont want to prolong anything that could become dire. But I dont want to jump the gun on this either. The doctors explanation of why this should be done sounds a bit feeble to me. Is it possible I'm not seeing what he does?