My friend is 76 years old and suffers from COPD and heart issues. We
hospice at home and he sleeps in a power recliner for comfort. He started visions/hallucinations and wants to get up out of his chair. Hospice nurse comes once a day on a schedule and today for the first time, I called for a nurse to come over in the middle of the night.
Sometimes he just says, "Up, Up, Up", or "Please, let's go". While saying these things, he scoots to the edge of his recliner and puts his good arm out (lost use of right hand when he had his first stroke in his 30's) and wants me to help him stand. I have helped him up a couple of times, but fear he will fall and pull his catheter out.
He has swelling in his legs and can briefly stand with my help. I don't know what else to say when he asks me to help him up. Sometimes it seems he is looking through me. I promised him I would be here for him and not let him die alone.
I fear that if I stop helping him stand up and agreeing to his wishes, he will feel betrayed and not trust me. His medications do help but as the days go by, they are increased and changed as his body fails. What should I and can I do?