My dad's doctor asked me if my dad's history of violent interaction with my mom is persisting. I said yes but nothing new except he's more erratic. So the doctor called APS which he had never done before despite having much more grizzly info. I thought nothing of telling him because it's been discussed. plenty of times before.
A few days later my mom gets a surprise visit from APS. She was in total shock.
She wants nothing to do with this and wants the case closed. She's been dealing with my dad and various professionals for years and she resents this forced interference (though she would welcome so effective help which seems to be impossible to get). My mom is 83 but she is in full possession of her mental abilities. She can, and has, called 911 before. She feels stressed by my dad but not frightened or threatened. Does she have any grounds for getting this case closed or at least having some voice in how it is carried out? Right now, they're telling he my dad will be physically taken and she has no voice. It almost seems like they are telling he that simply because she is elderly, she is subject to what they decide is best in this situation. Can that be?