I started working for a woman on a one month respite. Then the regular caregiver quit while on vacation. She is ok to work for, and her house is getting cleaner, but she is a micromanager to the core. I have never worked for someone where I am silent in the kitchen for 30 seconds, and "what are you doing". One thing I have noticed recently is she is micromanaging to the point that if I leave a piece of paper towel out she will mention it. 4 pieces of coffee grounds that ended up in the sink. A piece of kleenex. She always says I must do it, even though I leave her house spotless, and she has many people over.
She is not with dementia, has alot of knowledge, but I feel she does not allow me to speak without demeaning me.
I feel I have been very cordial and listening to her needs.
She is appearing the more time goes no to be very controlling about the way she wants things and I understand that as it is her house.
It is to the point now, where I do like her a lot, but she will ask me about why I left the apple slice on the counter. I said, I brought it from home, and did not finish eating it.
If I am silent for 1 minute, she says what are you doing?
Yesterday, her toilets when she flushed started bubbling. (The other toilet did), and I tried and tried to get it unplugged.
She has been concerned since day one, because she lives in a 50 year old house, and has not liked me to use any sort of wipes, (I assured her up and down that I would never, and truly I would never put one down the toilet). Which I swear on a stack of bibles is to do nothing but clean all the dust when I have nothing to do after I have cared for her. She does not like this. She said, who knows you might flush one down the toilet. I told her that I would never do that, as that is a general no no for all of my clients, and I do not even bring the towelettes and or rags near the toilets.
Well the last time I deep cleaned was about 5 days ago. She had this gurgling sound yesterday and she called her plumber.
They found an actual dish rag in the pipes. I walked in today, and she said "admit it", then shoved the bill in my face. I was startled and said what? not good morning or anything, I was I guess stunned by her response.
I said oh my goodness, well at least you found the problem. I was clueless that she was saying I put the rag down the toilet. I don't use rags, and if I do they are mine and are bright yellow and microfiber. This was white.
What I am asking is this, she has shown a side that is non forgiving, and basically she does not allow me to think through anything, I have to admit wrong doing, and that feels wrong.
I am truly the first one to admit when I do something wrong, but she is always telling me how wonderful I am doing and I am her excellent housecleaner, and then privately it feels pretty bad.
I get it this is a customer service oriented business. I only work for her two hours a day, and frankly she puts 4 hours of work in 2 hours. Money is not an issue, but she will not pay more than 2 hours period.
Then I went downstairs to look at the leaks, (she asked me too), and kept yelling for me to come up. She cannot walk downstairs. and low and behold her 50 year old pipes are all wet with leaks everywhere, and she failed to tell me that.
She was completely off centered as I was wanting to ask her and tell her that gosh if I did something like that, that would be a first, and I am very very careful with her because she is always telling me when I left 4 grounds of coffee in the sink or all of the little stuff.
this is a customer service oriented job, but when is enough enough? I am the only caregiver that has cleaned and she was elated for the first two months.
I work two hours a day, & my life is too short to live with her micromanaging. Do I mention this to her, and fear getting my head bit off, or do I just look elsewhere or bear with it. I know care jobs are hard, but I have 4 very part time ones that are excellent