While most people think granddad's behavior is due to his age, I cannot remember a time he wasnt' a contrarian. He argues EVERYthing.
Now, it's simple stuff and it's all day and night. Should I just go along, let him be unsafe, and worry that others will think he's neglected? Or do I continue this insane pattern of arguing over everything? I'll admit I show anger at times when I get tired of the B.S.
Me: Hey, GD, how about eating breakfast before you go to church?
GD: I don't need to eat breakfast
GD: Will you take me to church now?
Me: sure. it's 35 degrees out, though, and since you're cold all the time, wouldn't you like to put some layers over that t-shirt?
GD: I don't need to put any layers on.
Me: How about taking your walker into church with you so you can use it in there where the floors are hard marble tiles?
GD: I don't need to take it with me. It's not far
Woman coming out of church to me: Don't you think he should have a walker with him?
Me: (sighing) yes. thank you for pointing that out.
2pm at the doctor
Me: how about using that handrail right next to you so you don't trip and fall?
GD: I don't need to use the handrail (he fell and broke his arm and shoulder in June because of "not needing" a handrail.)
Me: (after finding he's turned the heat in the house up to 85 degrees, and it's a sauna in here) Hey, GD, I see you're laying on top of the comforter. Wouldn't you be warmer if you were under it?
GD: I don't need to be under it.
Me: how about putting on some shoes and socks so you won't slip and your feet will be warm?
GD: I don't need any socks or shoes.
Me: Let's talk. I'd like to ask you to please work with me instead of arguing over safety and health issues. I"m trying to help you.
GD: I don't argue with you.