My mom has been living in an apartment with our support (transportation, groceries, etc). But she's getting weaker and we all agree (her included) that it's time to move to assisted living. She's 93. Our best guess is she has 2-3 years left (but you never know) and we want them to be as good as they can be, which to me means finding the best place. We have 3 seemingly nice choices in our community. All relatively new and and all seem very nice. I've asked for input from others from friends and from FB community groups and I get such varying comments. "I'd never put my mom there, we had an awful experience. She was terribly neglected." to "That place was fantastic. My mom had a wonderful experience. Staff was great." - all about the same place at the same time. Etc, etc. I know I'm overthinking it and majoring in the minors. Any advice on how to make your best decision? My dad was in assisted living (different state) and skilled care nursing home for 3 years, so I'm familiar. He had dementia and had specific needs. It's harder this time with mom who doesn't have the specific needs and is very capable mentally. She's been declining physically the past few years so we see a trend. I would just appreciate any tips on how to make the decision and also how to effectively advocate for your parent once they are there. Also any ideas for keeping on top of things- I'd love to put in a nanny cam type of thing where you can just check in on her ... but I know, I know... over worrying, invading her privacy for my peace of mind, etc. Gosh, hard to let go of this. I know we can always move her, but as with many elderly, she hates change. Anyway, enough rambling. Thanks in advance for any help.