My Dad is 88 and cannot go back to assisted living from rehab. He is physically pretty healthy although the stroke 7 years ago was definitely the start of decline. He is diagnosed with vascular dementia and alzheimers. He has enough money to private pay for about two years, but then it will be medicaid.
I thought I had made my mind up and even paid a deposit at one facility, but now I have doubts. The one I put the deposit on is well respected, closer to my home and takes Medicaid, if and when the time comes.
I made the mistake of visiting a brand new facility that is 25 miles from my home and does not currently have a medicaid contract. Of course, it was beautiful and well laid out, with a choice of nice rooms on the courtyard. (It is just opening this coming week, however it is part of a large campus of independent and assisted living buildings, which has been there many years and has a good rep as well.) I loved it, but I only met the Administrator, Sales Person and Chef.
I've probably just answered my own question, but it's nice to get informed advice from the ones who have gone before me on this path. Thank you.