This is something that has weighed heavily on my mind lately because it seems there are so many seniors out there (personal experience with my family included) that seem to be oblivious to the fact they are aging, have never given much thought to planning financially and are hateful and belitting to many of the caregivers who take them in. Add to the fact the stastic I read on this forum that as many as 30% of caregivers pass away before those they are caring for and it is a sobering situation to say the least.
I am not addressing patients with dementia or alzheimers but people who are normally aging. I see many who I swear would trade a dozen of their family members for just six more months. People who once they showed any signs of aging increased their hatefulness because they had somehow felt they were "above" getting old.
When my dad found out he had cancer the first time, he was 49. He said he was feeling sorry for himself and turned on the television one night and saw a commercial for St. Jude's Children's Hospital. He said he was almost ashamed at his pity party when these little children were much sicker and fighting for their lives -- some with no hope. That story always stuck with me.
My daughter has been working with kid's charities for a few years and recently had an opportunity to work with one of the major charities that helps essentially dying or very ill children. The children are so grateful for anything. Not bitter, not lashing out, not calling their parents names or threatening them. Many are dying and doing so with dignity.
What is spiritually/morally wrong with our senior population that many cannot and will not be thankful for the 80 or 90 years many have been given? Many who have had a chance for higher education, marriage, children, careers, grandchildren but they are hateful wanting to do more for themselves or demand it be done for them. I know not all seniors are this way, but for many - there is no joy in spending any of their last years or months with them. Why is it never enough for them but a dying child or teenager who will never go to college, never have a family can often have such wisdom you sit in awe?
My FIL has gambled away his pension, has womanized, you name it. He recently said if he could live his life over -- he would do MORE of the same. Some of these seniors have done little for a church or charity. Yet I recently read a story of a courageous little girl who was battling cancer and received a gift box while in the hospital. That inspired her to do the same for other kids -- and she did until she died. Her parents continued her work. I read the same for other children's foundations where the parents continue the work that many times a child has started.
So does anyone have thoughts as to what is wrong with the current generation being cared for? Why must many put their families through a living Hell when there are dying children starting foundations and leaving a legacy when they die?