My dad continually tells me how to do endless things I'm perfectly capable of doing. I get told how to drive, which way to turn, where to park, how to cook, how to clean, that what I'm doing or getting for him is wrong, the list goes on and on, and down to every detail. It's sooooo tiresome to be made to feel incompetent all the time. I know all the stuff about him still seeing me as his child and him feeling the loss of control over his life, and I'm really patient and respectful, but it just gets old (pun?!) I've shared before that he's loud and rude in public now (assured by docs it's not dementia, but a loss of "filters" common in old age) and when I try to quiet him he just becomes worse, not respecting my point of view or opinion about his rudeness. He actually finds it funny to embarrass me, again treating me like a child. Yesterday I took pleasure in vacuuming weird as that is, because I got to tune him out---doesn't that sound terrible?! My dad also has a long history of pouting if he's really corrected and that's pretty insufferable to be around. He goes all "I'm sorry, I won't talk at all" On the good side, he tells all the people he knows that I help him with everything and thanks me regularly (which always seems ironic after being told how wrong I've done things) so I know he sees and acknowledges the help. We're blessed in many ways with him, and maybe this is more of a vent than a question as it's unlikely I'm going to teach an 86 year old dog a new trick. Maybe more coping skills for being made to feel incompetent?