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About my Aunt, She's 88 yrs old and lives alone in her own home. She's in the stage of dementia. As example, forgets my name at times, forgets the basic things of lifes tasks as what day it is, What yr it is. I can visit her on a Monday. Come Tuesday she forgets I seen her Monday. She also, Misplaces things. Her memory is becoming bad these days. To this this day she was "never" told by a doctor she's not compatent. So, legally wise she is able to do what she desires to do. She's not on Medicaid. She pays everything by writing checks. She is on Medicare as far as I know. Other then the simple memory tasks there's other basic tasks she has problems with. As example, Bathing her self, she task bird baths and not very well doing so. Wets the bed at times, Problems making it to the bathroom at times on time. Burnt frying pan from forgetting it on the stove. She uses a walker to get around. Can't do a thing without her walker .She does drive her car. I went for a ride with her the other day. She doesn't do so bad driving but, still scares me lol.
Relationship wise, My Aunt and I was never very close. I would call her up once a yr to say Merry x-mas. So, it was that type of relationship we had as a once a yr deal. I had no idea she got so bad. I learned a few months back that she needed help with things. My Cousin moved into our Aunt's home a few months back to be her caregiver. I thought our Aunt was ok because, my cousin moved in to help her. Then, I learned My Aunt was known by the Poice dept of making 911 calls. She made so many 911 calls that the police warned her if anymore calls are made adult social services will be contacted.
Where the Nightmare began,
I became concerned of my Aunt's care from my cousin's actions. Prior of my cousin coming to live with my Aunt. I haven't seen hied or hair from her in over 30 yrs. Last I heard she was homeless living in a storage unit in a another state.
So, I got concerned if she was just helping my Aunt for her money. The first thing I did was google searched her cell phone number. I found a news paper ad with her cell phone number attached to the ad selling cemetery plots.I learned they was my Aunt's plots she was selling. I asked my Aunt if she was selling them she replied to me "No". Then, I did more online searching and found our Aunt's house for sale with the cousin's cell number attached to the ad thru Remax. I asked my Aunt is she selling the house she stated "No".
There I had 2 red flags about my cousin's actions. After learning this my gut was telling me the cousin maybe selling items to pawn shops and such to obtain money. She had no Job.I decided to report all of this to adult social services asking for them to do a financial investagation? Adult social services told me they can't tell me any outcome. They did tell me to call the police to have a willness check done. So, I did.I never heard a responce about the willness check.
About a week goes by I get a call from my cousin stating she's in Jail for Battery towards my Aunt. Asking me to bail her out. I told her I don't have the money to do so. After I learned this, I went to see my Aunt. My Aunt told the cousin beat her up a few times. The cops took photos of the bruses she said. My cousin is family I was in deniel. I thought it could of just been my Aunt's dementia accussing the cousin of these things. I thought family don't do this to family this just can't be true so I thought.I called the detective incharged in the case. The detective told me, there is no dout the cousin beat her up fresh bruses was seen, photos was takin. I then learned the day prior of the cousin getting arrested. She had a appointment with my Aunt's attorney to get her Living Will changed and for her to be her POA. Luckly she was arrested before this was done. My Aunt told me she want's to fix her living Will. I took her to her attorney to do this. During that time her attorney told me he felt she needs a POA because, of her dementia is starting to take a toll on her. My Aunt made me her Durable POA and executor of her living Will. I am now her caregiver & Durable POA.I truned in the POA paperwork to her bank. I was told I now have full access to her accounts. I haven't asked for a bank statement yet to know her funds in her accounts.
Dealing with my Aunt with dementia comes with few good days and most all bad days. My Aunt can be mean to me at times and say hurtful things to me. I asked my Aunt what she wants to do ?She tells me she wants to live alone in her own home. I'm trying to grant her wishes. I visit her at her home 3-4 times a day. My wife help me take care of my Aunt as bathing her, cleaning the house all the time,bringing her meals so she don't have to cook for her self.And then some.It's a big job being a caregiver I must say. My wife does most of the work as her caregiver. My wife is not her POA I am.
With that said,
Can I write my wife out a check using my Aunt's funds for caregiver?
Example,Make a check out for CASH $100.00 with MEMO Caregiver?
How else can I?