My Aunt lives alone in her own home.She has dementia but " hasn't " been told by a doctor she's incompetent to make her own decisions.
My Aunt's memory and doing basic things around the house is becoming worse.
My wife & I stepped in as caregivers to help her out. My Aunt's wishes is to live in her own home alone until she passes. The wife & I try our best to grant her wishes to live alone at home. But, her being alone is becoming a problem. She wets her bed, House is starting to smell of Urine, Burned frying pan on the stove, Weight loss from not eating proper on her own, bathing her self, forgetting the everyday simple things. Sometime even forgetting my name .All signs of caregiver needed.
The wife & I decided to take on the job of caregiver for our Aunt. As of now we are her caregiver. We've been her caregiver for about 3 months now .The Aunt still lives alone as she wishes to do. We took on the job of cleaning her house for her, Food shopping,taking her trash out once a week, Fixing things around the house that needs fixed, Making trips to her bank to cash her checks and to get her spending money when she ask to do so, washing her cloths, Buying/bringing her meals so she don't have to cook so often.
My wife helps bath her and other things that a man as I feel is unconvertable to do as help with the lady's things if you understand what I'm trying to say.
In other words the wife & I are our Aunt's caregivers.Taking on this job is becoming a bigger task then we thought it would be. We was going to see our Aunt everyday to help her and to make sure she is ok. Dementia comes with good days and most bad days. Sometimes our Aunt can be mean and say bad things to us. We learned that we was going over to our Aunt's house to much. As waring our welcome out. So, we decided to cut back on visits to her home to see her. It does make a difference to the good. Gives us all time apart from each other. The problem the wife & I have is money problems caused by caregiving for our Aunt. The cost we spend just in gas is becoming a problem for us.20 miles one way adds up after awhile. Not just the gas cost ,it's the time the wife & I are losing from our own family/kids.There's times the wife has to take off from work to go help our Aunt with things.
Can the wife or I start charging our Aunt for these caregiver services we do for her?
I'm not asking to charge our Aunt tons of money like normal caregivers do. But, caregivers do earn their keep. I'm talking about charging her for gas cost and a little for my time or my wifes time. As example, $100 a week is pennies to any caregiver but,thats all I would ask for.Is there a way I can do this?
I am our Aunt's durable POA.I'm not asking to charge for POA services.POAs are not aloud to charge for POA services.
I'm asking to be reinburst for our cost out of our pocket?"As caregiver.