My father went to stay with my brother for the "winter" (forever we hope) and once there had to see a prostate specialist who ordered a catheter due to chronic inflammation sealing the urethra closed. It was determined after a month that it wasn't going to get better on it's own so the Dr. planned to operate on dad to cut away some of the inflammation that had become like scar tissue, hopefully relieving the pressure so the cath could be permanently removed.
The operation was scheduled and sister in law and dad went in for pre-op (two hour drive to the hospital, 5 hours there, 2 hours back - a 9 hour ordeal). Two days later my brother took a vacation day for the surgery only to have the Dr. call at the last minute and cancel the surgery. Turns out the doctor just discovered dad was still on his coumadin. No one had told him or my brother or sis in law two weeks earlier that he was supposed to quit taking it.
It was three weeks out before they could reschedule, and because it was so long he had to go through Pre-op again.. That meant another full day spent for pre-op and then another day for surgery (and vac. day for bro) Surgery day started early, 5 AM. So brother and sister in law and dad decided to drive up the evening before surgery and spend the night in a hotel. They enlisted my help the the evening before they were to leave..and I scheduled them a hotel through priceline. Two hours before they were set to leave the house the Dr. called, surgery had to be cancelled again! Seems he had a urinary trac infection they just found out about. Guess what...priceline doesn't give refunds unless you buy separate trip insurance. Money Down the Drain. Lesson learned...always buy trip insurance (but if you do that then there goes the discount!). Forget priceline.
Third times a charm, right? They put dad on 2 weeks of antibiotics and rescheduled surgery. They said they could forgo preop since they had one only two weeks old and family Dr had checked the infection and it was gone.
The big day came and no phone call. Dad was so excited...He had been over 2 months now with a catheter that was uncomfortable anytime he tried to get up or down or walk, hurt every time they had to change it out, and just made his life plain miserable. Finally it was going to come out and he felt he'd have his old life back. Brother took off work again..it was finally getting done! The surgery wasn't until noon so they didn't have to get a hotel the night before. Dad gave a hip hip hurray when they got to the hospital and hadn't receive any calls canceling anything.
They prepped dad and after about an hour they put in his IV and said the Anesthesiologist would be in shortly to give him a shot then he'd be taken to surgery. 20 minutes whet by and his surgeon came in and said he was so sorry to have to tell them this, but the surgery had to be CANCELED for a third time !@!!
The Anesthesiologist, while going through Dad's charts at the last minute, noticed that dad had a procedure 7 months previously to have stints put into two of his heart arteries. He said the rules say he's not allowed to administer anesthesia to a heart patient for at least a year after any stint or bypass surgery, and then they have to have a complete heart work-up and a cardiologist signing off on it before they will go ahead with anything requiring anesthesia.
WHY IN THE H*** DIDN'T THEY TELL US THIS AT THE VERY BEGINNING??? WHAT IN THE BLAZES IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?????
They told dad he has to now wear the stint for 3 more months (which will be one year after his stint surgery) and then will have to see a heart doctor and do a stress test before they can schedule surgery for the prostate.
Dad is devastated. Now he just wants to die and join mom. He's told my brother he's going back to Ohio where his "real" doctors are (We don't feel he can live alone...he's too weak and he has a cath he can't handle by himself).
He can't imagine wearing this cath a minute longer. We're all afraid he's going to tear it out in frustration. He feels the doctors are all in cahoots trying to get more money from him and his insurance company. After all, they've had two post opps, an additional chest Xray..additional visits to/from the specialist, medicines, and a visit to the hospital with prep for surgery and YET NOTHING'S BEEN DONE... Insurance has to have been billed thousands I'll bet, and for what? Incompetence?
Sorry, I have to rant here... my brother won't let me rant at the doctors. He said dad is going to need them to take care of him in three months when try number 4 might be the charm and he doesn't want any burned bridges.
Meanwhile, dad has to wear a cath for at least 12 more weeks... I need advice on how to make this bearable for him. What he has isn't working. Can anyone recommend a good cath system?
Thanks for reading all this if you did, and for any advice.