Long time reader, first time poster here. Just a son caring for his mother. Not from the states. Been a carer for 15 years. The last 5 years have been the hardest. Basically have given up my life to be with her every waking and sleeping minute. Just wondering how I ended up where I am. I'm convinced this is the hardest job and role in the world.
I'm still in my 30s man I wanna go out and party!
Sorry guys just a bit of a vent.
If your mother truly loved you she would never want you to give up your life for hers...NEVER!
You should at this point in your life be out living on your own, holding down a good paying job and doing the many things that you enjoy, without having to be tied down to a woman who needs to placed in a facility if she requires the 24/7 care you say she now requires.
Surely you have nursing facilities where you live and also help financially if money is an issue.
And as long as you continue to be the only solution for your mothers care, she will never except help from the outside, so time to take many steps back and take your life back and party until the cows come home.
You deserve it!!!
Good journey!
Try to get some help in the house, like a paid caregiver. She will not like it, but it's what she needs and what you need, also.
I'm so sorry, I get it caregiveing, slowly eats away at anything good in your life and one day you wake up and say, where did my life go??
Is there anyway you can get more help.
Tell us more, who your caring for, there health issues? Your not the only one here not in the states, there may be others here, from where you are that can help you find some relief.