This is very hard and i am so proud of all who can do this.I myself am disabled with mental illness and my partner is disabled also.I feel horrible but we just got back together after a divorce a few years ago and we have not been able to work on our own relationship. Now , we have this huge task /challenge in front of us and I want to run. It is so stressful and overwhelming and I do not want to do it. My health is important and in just a month it has been bad. My partner also has been having to take extra meds to just get by and I am afraid for him. His father can pass at any time but it is not to say it will be longer. Our home now is being taken over we have no time for anything because someone needs to be with him 24 hours a day. I go to school and work pt. I feel horrible that I do not want this stress and responsibility but I am a nervous wreck constantly because of the stress. Yes, his ex wife is here but not well herself she is 72 and his father is 78. My life is hard enough with the mental illness this is making it even harder. I feel I will have to leave and walk away from the man I love. Because he will not hung up the towel because his dad does not want to be in an assisted living facility and is upset about even paying for home healthcare help. His sister has been taking care of their father till Dec. and he was not in hospice and lived and could be on his own. They live in CA. Please help me.