MIL has always been a very negative person. Example: yesterday she asked me how my day was. I said great, and she said that was good because eventually it will all head south and then all my days will be crappy. This has been her personality for as long as I have known her. I ignore it as best I can. The issue is her general demeanor to our 14 yr old son. He is a very good kid, but he is a kid. She rags on him constantly. He manages to sit in silence while she does this. Occasionally, my husband has jumped in to defend him. This generally makes it worse. I have advised my son to just steer clear of her. Why put yourself through it? There is only so much anyone could take of being nagged at constantly, let alone a 14 yr old boy. I am amazed he hasn't lost it a time or two. Is it wrong to advise him to avoid her when she is in these moods (almost always)? My husband would like us to engage with her more. I think he is wishing for a relationship she is simply not capable of.