Hi I come by here often to read alot of the posts here. They are very interesting and I find myself going through alot of these issues. I am 50 years old and I have a domestic partner who is 68 years and has severe alzheimer's disease. Her onset came from her having congestive heart failure and her being extremely stubborn, I could not convince her to go to the hospital when the ambulance arrived. She fought like crazy till she ended up passing out and not being able to breathe. At this point EMS HAD to take her because as I said she had passed out. We are a gay couple of 22 years. It got to the point that by the time we arrived at the hospital she had already lost alot of oxygen to her brain and has been declining ever since. She was intubated in the hospital because she could not breathe on her own. I was devastated to see her with all these machines and tubes in her. I am by her side NO MATTER WHAT. We are legal domestic partners in NY since 2002. She is now in a nursing home because she had become so violent in the home and I was the only one taking care of her. She does have family but they do not visit her but once or twice within the year she has been there. I am there everyday and feel guilty when I want to take a day off. I am not in good health myself. I have lymphedema and rhumatoid arthritis in both legs. I am in constant pain and am now working with pain management doctors to help me het on a regimen that will keep me comfortable. I LOVE her very much and will do anything in my power to make sure she is comfortable and not wanting for anything. I would love to talk to someone who can relate to my problems. She would NEVER want to live this way and I know this in my heart. I just dont know what to do. I cry everyday after visiting her because she is now confined to a wheelchair, wears diapers, can't speak well at all, blind in one eye, can't open her fingers up due to arthritis, can't walk and the list goes on. I'm gonna stop writing now because I am getting very emotional, sorry, will continue another time.