I have been caring for my mother for almost 6 years alone. I’m close to checking out.

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I have been caring for my mother for almost 6 years alone. My mother lives in a wheelchair has no dementia she just can’t walk. She is narcissistic and greedy and is never happy. I oversee her care with caregivers. Because of the new caregivers weekly I have put all my moms gold jewelry and diamonds in a safe deposit box. My mother is hounding me for her jewelry daily. She says I’m keeping it from her so I can wear it when she dies. I wish she was gone now. I’m close to wanting to take my own life. It’s all I think about. I want out of taking care of my mother. How do I find a senior advisor or someone to help me please?

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Contact your county's Area Agency on Aging (usually part of your county's health and human services department; the phone number should be on the county's website). Get your mother evaluated as to what she needs, what she qualifies for. This should get you pointed in the right direction. You can stop being her caregiver.
Good luck!
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Bless your heart... you need a quik get away. To reevaluate the situation. That best suits your well-being. yes tell her why her jewelry is put away? Right..

Plz chime in & tell us how you are doing
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dlpandjep Sep 4, 2018
Maybe I'm naive or just old fashioned, but whenever possible (her Mother has her mind), I tell the truth. Jep
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Care-giving can be so stressful and it sounds like you are burned out. You have others coming in to help - take advantage of that. Get out and try to enjoy yourself a little. Please don't check out. You are loved and so many of us understand and care what your going through. Check with your personal physician and tell him/her what you've told us. You may have a support group in your area and you may be suffering from depression (most of us do from time to time). Reach out to local help and get out of the house more!

As for the jewelry problem, can you give her a few items that aren't really valuable? If not, LEARN TO WALK AWAY away when she starts on you. Tell her that you're protecting her from the very real possibility of having it stolen. Don't allow her to brow beat you.

You have given so much of yourself - don't give up now. You are loved precious one.
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Hi Jetcitygirl, 

Caregiving is a long, difficult road, and we're happy you have found the support of fellow caregivers here on this site. I'm sure you will hear from others who can empathize with the struggle of being the sole caregiver. However, there are limits to what guidance untrained members on our site can provide for you. 

Please reach out to experts for additional support and the help you need at the 24-hour National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.
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