Good afternoon all.. I was Hoping you could help me. So a year ago my Fiancee's grandfather came to visit us he has COPD hes on oxygen 24/7. I had no idea he would end up living with us. At the time I was not working due to my own illnesses. My FI works so i was taking grandpa to all of his doc appts, to do all of his errands, cooking and cleaning prescriptions ect. At the end of last year my health improved a little and I was able to start working again. I was never asked if i was ok with this living situation it sort of just happened. He has a daughter that doesn't work and lives a few hours north of us but somehow he decided it would be easier to live with us. My FI and I both work and now my FI having to take time off of work to take him to doctors appointments almost every week. Grandpa drinks, a lot and i have to go to the store every few days to get alcohol for him because its on MY way home. I miss cooking at my leisure and sometimes not cooking at all, now every night I do it to feed grandpa. Its not like he's mean but its starting to get me a bit frustrated. Its always "i need you to pick up this " or "whats for dinner?" or "When's your next day off i need to go do this.." or "after you get home from work I need you to..." Now my FI does all that he can, and I do all that I can to help him but I know its starting to get tiring to both of us though he will never admit it because i think he'll feel guilty. If I ever mention that i miss living without grandpa or hint at it he gets kind of.. frustrated? I ask if he ever feels that way and he doesn't have an answer. The other thing is that grandpa has no patience. AT ALL.He yells and screams at people at the pharmacy and people at the doctors office, people that i have to see and deal with. I feel like I'm taking care of somebody when I barely take care of myself with my illness and work. I don't want to seem like the bad guy but I've been with my FI 4 years, we're newly engaged, young and this should be a happy time for us but its loaded down with extra responsibilities and difficulties. Grandpa can't afford to live on his own and my FI cares for him as if he was his father....I guess I'm just getting overwhelmed and frustrated.. Any suggestions would be great. Thank you!!