Forgive me if this sounds selfish. I am an only child. 20 years old and married. My mother was diagnosed with cancer when I was 16. She has been in remission for 3 years but recently her cancer came back so they are trying to do a stem cell transplant. I agreed to come for 3 months to help her recover for the first month or two then her friend is going to start living with her so that she is not alone. My husband stayed in the US because he has a job. I feel very uncomfortable in this situation as I feel like my mom is trying to have me stay longer. I have only been around for a few days and shs is already talling about how she will miss me whe I leave which leaves me feeling guilty. She is trying to coerce me to stay for 4 months instead of 3 but to be honest it's already putting strain on my marriage. I have a lot of stuff to take care of as well with immigration and us moving into a new place and my step kid visiting. She tries to coerce me into staying longer and I feel guilty when she tells people "I'm not staying for long". My mom has a lot of needs and I am running around most of the day just getting stuff for her but I feel like she doesn't take into consideration how tired I am and I feel like she takes advantage of it. I just feel so alone and just so so tired and worn out. I dont have any clue what I am doing.

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You're doing fine. You went to your mother to be with her while she recovered and 3 months is a long time especially when you have your own family obligations thousands of miles away.

She won't be alone when you leave and you can always go back if you feel it's necessary. In the meantime you can talk on the phone, send her cards and little notes. She'll be OK while you're not there.
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