My mother in law lives with her youngest son in one state, my husband, her oldest son, live in another state. My husbands brother and his wife are taking a much needed vacation for a week or two-she's staying with us for 2 1/2 weeks. She just found out that they went on vacation without her and is very hurt and upset. The kicker is that she is confused about her relationship with that son.
She believes that they are close friends (no dating or anything she says) but she can't believe he didn't tell her they were going on vacation. Is somewhat muddled about who she thinks his wife is.
Besides her obvious dementia/Alzheimer's problem, she is incontinent to the point of not even being aware when she is wet. Getting her to I change is a battle in itself.
We don't know how to handle her obvious distress. I thought she would forget about it after sleeping, but she says she didn't get any sleep last night and doesn't know where she's going to live now.
I can't convince her that she will be going "home" in a couple of weeks when her son returns. I haven't even tried to correct her altered reality, as she gets very upset and argumentative when we try to correct her.
I've tried to redirect her, but she just wants to sit on the sofa and sniffle and comment on her lack of friends or place to go.