I had no mother for most of my life, she left me when I was young, just to reappear
six years ago needing care whilst she died. That was okay. Now my mother-in-law has moved into a nice facility near my husband and also near his brother. She has six children, the two men and then four daughters. None of the daughters do a thing, rare visits, if any. It is such a strain on our family as she wants us, or me, to drive the hour and and 1/2 at the drop of a hat. If I don't do it,
my nice husband will. The woman is very selfish, and I don't feel like a person when with her. My family is struggling financially, and while I don't expect her to help, it is hard to watch her spend so much money on luxuries, expect my son to
work for her, work on her house, and not consider paying him. This sounds petty I realize. Yet we, our small family, our fighting our way out of tough times, and we are going to make it. We treasure any bits of down time, that would be an evening every two months. I am recovering from late stage breast cancer. I guess the hardest part is that her daughters are content to do nothing, and this does effect me as I either have to go to her myself or see my tired husband drag himself out there. Yes, I have asked them to help. Don't I sound petty?
She complains and complains, yet her circumstances are quite nice. She was never a grandmother to my son. I must stop my complaining, I leave her feeling
de-personalized, de-moralized and weary.