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My Mother whom lives with us, demintia, wheelchair bound and needy for everything in a day , NOW my husband is having major health issues, he has has 4 heart attacks, he has diabetics, and mental health and now they have found a mass in his left kidney and dr. feels strongly this may be advanced kidney cancer, they can NOT do surgery as his right kidney is deformed since birth. I am the only one in the house that works, i do have 3 hours a day 7 days a week to help care for my Mother, still leaves me with a lot of "STUFF" to deal / do with , and possibly very often treatments for my husband. I work at McDonald's ( very low income )

I am at a loss and sooooooooo confused and sad myself and dealing with my own emotions ( i am a cancer survivor myself dx. 9 years ago, and since i have NO insuranceso i don't know where i stand in this myself) and yet i have people telling me everything will be ok , don't worry, Yeah sure easier said than done , We are in prayer list at our churh but any help, thoughts or anything else would be GREATLY appreciated too.

God Bless all

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How can you care for your mother and husband, and still work? I'm sorry to say, I don't think you can. But I think deep in your heart, you already knew that. As hard as it is, you may have to make some choices that you don't want to make, like nursing home care. One person cannot do everything for everybody, without killing themselves.

Please remember that you need to take care of yourself, too. Your health is important. If you get too sick or too tired to function, not only will you have ruined your own health, but there will not be anybody around to arrange care for your mother and husband—or you.

There is help out there, but sometimes it takes a lot of work to find it. I know, just what you need when you are already overwhelmed. A call to the Alzheimer's Association might show you where to start looking. Your local council on aging might be able to help. Your husband might qualify for hospice. Ask your pastor if there is any way the church can help you, even temporarily, while you get your bearings. It may be hard to have to ask for help, but you cannot do this by yourself.

As for the people who tell you not to worry, they should have to walk a mile in your shoes, and then see how they feel.
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How can you care for your mother and husband, and still work? I'm sorry to say, I don't think you can. But I think deep in your heart, you already knew that. As hard as it is, you may have to make some choices that you don't want to make, like nursing home care. One person cannot do everything for everybody, without killing themselves.

Please remember that you need to take care of yourself, too. Your health is important. If you get too sick or too tired to function, not only will you have ruined your own health, but there will not be anybody around to arrange care for your mother and husband—or you.

There is help out there, but sometimes it takes a lot of work to find it. I know, just what you need when you are already overwhelmed. A call to the Alzheimer's Association might show you where to start looking. Your local council on aging might be able to help. Your husband might qualify for hospice. Ask your pastor if there is any way the church can help you, even temporarily, while you get your bearings. It may be hard to have to ask for help, but you cannot do this by yourself.

As for the people who tell you not to worry, they should have to walk a mile in your shoes, and then see how they feel.
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