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Not sure how to cope with someone i know and love that is doing this for his family and it is alot of responsibility financially and time consuming. Not sure if I will ever be as important to him as they are! He is a wonderful loving man with a long list of priorities! He works very hard too. The dynamic is large!

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Share your concerns with him, it's only fair. Does he actually know how much you love him? As a guy reading this, if you really love him you will find a way to get through this.

Caregiving has its difficulties. My wife and I know we'll how caregiving can be draining on us at times. We have a daughter in wheelchair and caring for both my aging parents. Well now one is in a nursing home, but there has still been a lot to do for them there yet. We've needed each other to get through this last 4 years!

So if you really love him deeply, open up to him and have a good talk. See where it goes from there.
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Unfortunately, this forum is full of sagas of people who sacrifice their relationships with their own significant others for the excessive and unfair demands and expectations of their parents, grandparents, or other elder family members. They may be sacrificing their own health, jobs, finances, homes and futures as well.

See if you can get him to realize that the demands are excessive. If he can't accept that and make changes, don't let yourself get dragged down too.
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Do not allow yourself to be dragged into this.

Take Fawnby's advice below.
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How you cope is to make sure you are not dragged into it so that you become their caregiver as well. It's nice to be kind, it's nice to help, but I'm concerned that you mentioned family members - plural. One family member cannot in all likelihood take care of more than one disabled family member, and depending on the disability, taking care of even one can be impossible. I.M.P.O.S.S.I.B.L.E.

If he's giving you vibes that they are the most important people in the world to him, run, don't walk, to the nearest exit.
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