My husband assumed guardianship of his father about 3 years ago. Growing up, my father in law was verbally abusive to my husband and was an alcoholic for many years. He does not play well with others either. He hates accepting help from anyone and even to obtain guardianship, he had to be declared mentally incompetent. We had to take him to court. He was incapable of taking care of himself and his house was a health hazard as well as a falling hazard. He has had several amputations of toes and part of a foot. Not to mention he was still driving. He is ungrateful and demanding. He has been kicked out of one facility and is now in another, but we are waiting for the phone call excusing him from their residence as well. He refuses medicine (he is an insulin dependent diabetic), he cusses out the staff, and has even been known to hit people a few times in the past. He does have dementia, but I swear there are times that he has control over himself and just chooses to be contrary. My husband is the only living relative. His mom has passed and there are no siblings or even cousins. My husband is doing this out of obligation only. He is a good man and ALWAYS does the right thing, even when it is hard. However, I am having a hard time watching him go through this. It is affecting our lives and his work. He has considered giving up guardianship and even contacted the courts, but it seems to be much easier to get guardianship than it is to give it up. I would love to hear from anyone else in a similar situation just to have someone to relate to. I find that most of the people I know that are caring for older loved ones did not come from similar backgrounds. It's hard to find people to talk to that are caring for a parent now that has always been a difficult person.