Did you ever imagine yourself in this position? My father is 94 and my mother is 74 things weren't too bad until 6 years ago. My father lost his vision to macular degeneration so that meant no more driving. My mother had given up driving about 15 years ago. My father's idea move in together so for 6 years I have been the caregiver for them both. It got worse when my father broke his leg, and my mother had a stroke in the same month. Between hospital,therapy and doctors I have to be the ears for both of them because my mother just doesn't get it she's in denial and very negative. She hates everything, blames me for starting the doctors and having to take pills, she had never been on medication before. Constantly blaming my father for the "mess" we are in. She is unable to make decisions on her own. My father has an excuse he's 94 but she hadn't been to a doctor for 34 years and hasn't gone to the dentist her teeth are really bad, doesn't have a social life, I have offered to take her to the senior center she says thats where the "old Bitties" are. She sits here day after day and hates everything. I do my best to bite my tongue but I defend myself when she blames me for her health. Its hard to have a decent conversation because it always turns out in an argument. I have a husband whom she doesn't like and we have two teenage sons who won't have very fond memories of their grandma. I explain to my father that I am doing the best I can caregiving doesn't come with instructions.