Hey guys, I'm a live in caregiver for an elderly woman who suffers from anxiety and who now cannot to walk after a fall about 4 months back.
The thing is she refuses to use diapers. She insists I put the bedpan everytime she needs to go. In the day I don't really care but in the night, her incessantly calling me every 30-45 mins because she needs to pee (she often doesn't even "go") is getting pretty old really fast.
I know what you guys are thinking, "well just leave her in the diapers." I tried that a few times and she screamed and yelled so much that either neighbors came over concerned, or have called the police.
She doesn't sympathize with the fact that I get no sleep. As far as she's concerned, she's paying me and so I should drop whatever I'm doing and come (these are her actual words).
From what I understand she's always been an extremely difficult person, I could go on for forever but let's just say that she's one of those people who's truly alone. No one comes to see her. If we see one of her siblings or grandchildren etc while we're walking about, they will pointedly walk to the other side of the street and pass her straight.
When she's calm and not being annoying with the diaper situation she's quite lovely and I enjoy spending time with her. But 3 months of literally no sleep is no bueno, and if I can't find a solution I will just have to resign because I know I can't make it through the summer with this.
Thanks for any tips and feedback!