Caring for bed-wetting husband.

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My husband wets the bed and I've purchased adult size pin-on cloth diapers and plastic pants to manage the problem in order to cut down on the costs of disposable diapers. I have a teenage daughter who helps around the house with various chores, including helping out with laundry. I was thinking about asking her to help with laundering the incontinence garments.She knows about her father's bedwetting and the fact that he has to wear diapers to bed and she is very understanding about the whole thing. Given this, would it be okay to involve her in some way with laundering the incontinence garments. I've heard that there are plenty of children and teenagers that help out in various ways with caregiving tasks and given the fact that she already knows about the bedwetting I didn't think it is much of a stretch to get her to help out. Also, since there are adult children who help their parents in this area I thought it would be okay for her to help. Before asking her to help out do you think I should talk to my husband first?

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One more thought occurred to me. Have you considered the condom style catheter. It is placed on the out side of the penis just like a condom and has a collection bag attached. The original Texas catheter can be difficult to fit and keep on if the penis is small. there is however a new variety called the men's freedom catheter which actually has small tags that adhere to the tip of the penis, The manufacturers call them daisy petals and although I have never seen or used one it looks like an excellent idea. My husband liked the idea but thought he would rather try a penile clamp first. I expect he will go on with the Depends they work for him.
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When I had babies in cloth diapers I dropped the wet ones into a bucket of dilute bleach water and after the poop was rinsed off they joined them Each morning I tipped the bucket into the washer then spun out the liquid. Next I ran a rinse cycle and finally a hot wash. With that arrangement I think you could ask her if she was willing but don't think it should be expected unless you are handicapped in some way. Is your husband handicapped or does he handle the changing and toileting himself. My husband uses Depends and does not need help but does not expect me to dispose of the contents of his bathroom bucket. No problem with your daughter handling clean garments she knows why they have to be used but I know my daughters (over 40) would prefer not to have to care for their Dad's personal hygiene unless it was an emergency and then they would step up to the plate.
Unless. she volunteers I think it is best not to ask.
I have seen daughters care for their fathers and sons care for their mothers (are you there captain?) but there was no one else to help
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Why don't you want to do it?
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if she already knows. i don't see it as a problem,depends on the age . kids like to help out there moms. and in my case . are daughter feels more mature then her father in a way. and that's kinda nice, because she thinks he needs the extra help. of course , i wont tell him that, at time she reminds him to go potty. which makes me smile.
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I agree with Jaques, disposables would be the route I'd go. For me, I would not ask my daughter to do any of this, she can do a lot of other things around the house to help you, shopping, cleaning, etc. Keep the toileting between you and your husband, that is my take, but what do I know.
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Get disposable briefs and underpads and you shouldn't have to do any extra laundry.

The ones with velcro are cheap and they work well, better than the more expensive Depends undergarments. When Mom was in hospice they supplied us with them free of charge.
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How old is your teenager? My first reaction was No. But I was thinking of the poop factor. Even I wouldn't want to deal with the poop. When my sister and family would visit, her daughter saw me struggling to change grandma's pampers. She would ask me if I needed help. After that, she would help when I did it. Mom was so stiff that when I turned her on the side to clean her backside, she would automatically try to go to lying facing up. .. I still remember the times when niece choked and gasped trying to breathe thru that very stinky poop. Niece started helping at about age 16 by holding grandma in place while I cleaned her. Eventually, she also helped with feeding mom thru her stomach tube. So, it depends on your daughter and her maturity of handling the soiled diapers. When the bedding was soiled with urine, I did it myself.
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I wouldn't ask your daughter if I were you. I would leave them for myself, as I did for my mother-in-law's soiled items. But I definitely would utilize her with all other laundry matters. I currently have my teenage son helping with laundry such as towels, jeans and his clothes. I have a three section hamper and dirty clothes are placed in the appropriate slot so laundry is easier to do because it's already appropriately divided up. I think it's good to teach children how to do laundry so they won't be dumbfounded when they get older/move out and have to do their own laundry. Good luck!!
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