Hello everyone, I am new here. I have been caring for my 89 grandma for 4 years now I am 34. She was diagnosed with dementia 1 year ago. Things were pretty hectic for the past year, she is very apprehensive to let someone handle her affairs. Her daughter (my mom) recently came home from a 9 year prison stay-she has a history of opiate abuse and stealing. The day she came home to live with us she took over. After 5 days home my grandma demanded i give all her meds to my mom to take care of..mostly controlled substances. Bad idea. Now my grandma has went 3 weeks without her pain meds bc my mom took them all. My grandma is an enabler for my mom. Always has been. They are both stealing from me. I lock my room up and mom cuts my screen and climbs through my window, taking money and anything of value. I promised my grandpa I would care for grandma. This promise I have to break. I provide everything here for the both of them. I pay bills,buy food for them and their pets. My mom wont work (shes 53) and mooches off my grandma. I have no poa or anything stating she cant make decisions for herself. I am moving june 6 bc this environment is not only unhealthy for myself but my 12 and16 yo. I am a single mom, I can't afford to provide for me gram and the kids and mom. Too much for one person. My grandma has started abusing me, hitting me and saying vile hurtful things in front of my children. Mom is always high on something and I can't take this anymore. I'm afraid when I leave my grandma will be taken advantage of and that all her things will be stolen. I have to move us for my sanity. This situation has made me suicidal at times. Talking to grandma results in her telling my mom my concerns which in turn causes horrible dramatic screaming matches and spiteful behaviors. Do you guys have any advice on what to do from here? Seems I'm the adult here. My mom wont work. Am i doing the right thing?