My husband and I are caring for his mother with Alzheimer’s stage 5. Her hygiene is very poor now. She never washes her hands on her own anymore and cannot brush her teeth properly as well. We ask her to brush her teeth every morning but she doesn’t do it properly anymore. We had her teeth sorted out and cleaned by the dentist but the foul odour still remains. She is still physically strong and thinks there is nothing wrong with her. We try our best to allow her to do things on her own as much as possible to avoid the aggression that ends up with her saying, “I’m not stupid!” When we are out for a walk, she’ll pull the weeds she sees growing out of the pavement (very dirty as the dogs like to pee on them) or picks up rubbish on the street and put in her pocket (we try to stop her as much as we can but most of the time she’s already picked them up). She goes to daycare 3 or 4 times a week which gives us relief.
Anyway, my husband and I want to have a baby. I wonder how you think it’s gonna be for us to live with a newborn and an elderly with an advanced dementia. I’m concerned about the safety of our baby. Every time my mother in law sees a baby on a push chair, she gets really excited and starts touching the baby’s face with her dirty hands and talks to the baby’s face with a bad breath. I dont know what to do most of the time. I feel really bad for the baby we meet and just hope it didn’t get anything harmful from her. My MIL and the other people don’t understand when we try to pull her away from the baby.
Anyway I really want to have a baby but our living condition makes me really anxious. Is it even a good idea?