I've been having a really difficult time as of late, and needed somewhere to get some advice - this seemed like a very supportive forum!
My Grandma is 87 and she suffered a stroke in mid-January, where she is no longer able to move her right arm and has troubles with her right leg (she still uses a walker). Fortunately, her speech and memory were not greatly affected. She lived (pre-stroke) in our basement suite (I'm 24 and live at home with my mom) and moved back in with us in mid-March.
She remained in the hospital for two months, where she received physio from Mon-Fri. I was up to visit everyday to help with her exercises and meals. I felt like she was making so much progress... I would spent at least a few hours there visiting each day, while also trying to balance my schooling and social life (I'm currently in graduate school and have been more flexible in terms of my schedule).
However, then COVID hit and the hospital believed that she would be much better off at home, and they discharged her slightly earlier than we anticipated.
I have felt just so extremely overwhelmed at points. I'm not trained to be a caretaker by any means, but I've been trying my best to help in any way I can. She has really been struggling with her emotions and hasn't been hungry at all really. I've been trying to help with her exercises, but most of the time she wants to stay in her chair. I would absolutely love to take her outside in our garden, but she just doesn't seem to want to (I think she's embarrassed that our neighbours will see her in her walker... she is very very stubborn and proud...).
It is very much so an emotional rollercoaster - I've had some really difficult days. It has been extra stressful while attempting to manage my coursework and research at school, while also making sure she is taken care of... not to mention the pandemic! My mom is also slowly beginning to work again, making things a bit more stressful (I feel even more pressure to be home to take care of her).
She has been such a huge part of my life and I love her so much - I would do anything to try and help, however I'm finding myself feeling very down because she doesn't appear to be improving (she seems to have gotten even weaker since being home). I feel guilty saying it, but I just feel like my life has been halted altogether and I'm having a difficult time focusing on anything else.
Any advice or ways to cope with this situation would be greatly appreciated, thank you very much to all those who read this fully!