I am amazed at the amount of posts from persons in the "sandwich generation" and/or persons who have an "empty nest" but never really get the chance to see it empty so that they have some time in their lives before they are elders themselves to focus only on living solely for their needs and plans. It seems as if we are taking care of children; then before the kids are "launched" we are already taking care of elder family-member's needs. Are folks just living that much longer so that the issues of age happen and they need help beyond what medical and social programs can provide?
I feel like I'm going to be old myself and not fully ready to take care of my elder years because I haven't had the time to do what I needed to do for myself. Job, financial planning, further education to keep up with trends, etc. I've still got a minor at home and an almost 90 year old parent who I have to take care of. She always has been challenging and needy. I've finally got my kids out of diapers and I already see the "diaper years" happening for the parent and it's my job to take care of it. This is blunt, but it's the only way I can see to describe it. In my adult years I've seen the trend of extra rules and policy put into place that often supersede the common sense approach to just setting ground rules to live by. I have had to provide extra safety measures for both generations, make sure they are where they need to be and getting what society mandates -- often when the "didn't wanna" and all I get is a suggestion to do "time out" (which I have to oversee) if they "don't wanna."
I've seen so many posts on this site from folks who are tired and frustrated. The ones like me who had less-than-stellar parents are especially frustrated because we wanted a little respite after we got out on our own.
Is this the largest sandwich generation ever? Is it the most complicated sandwich-generation ever? It seems to be. Thoughts?