They have dementia and mom is on 24/7 oxygen. I am an only child. My husband works from home and is a very big help. I work full time out of the home. For the past 4 months we have aides 8hrs each day. Mom was always difficult and now every more so. It is effecting my marriage and I know my husband is burned out. I feel guilty to even think of putting them in a facility and they are lucid enough to be vehemently against it. I do have POA. The guilt I feel is also due to the resentment that both my husband and I have no life other than caring for them. Any advise would be so helpful.