My father in law refuses to listen to what I ask of him. He always wants to be (always) confrontational with me. I've tired a few different approaches & nothing seems to work, with the exception of having to raise my voice. I'm not comfortable with doing this, because I know he can hear me & what's being asked of him. His son asks him to do things & he (completely) complies to whatever he says with no problem(s) what so ever. However, since I'm dealing with him, for 12 hours a day, I'm becoming a bit confused as to why he doesn't? To me, it almost seems as though he playing games with me. He seems to want me to get upset with him. I don't understand that "concept?" Why does the one that does the most for him, feeding, changing his clothes, showering, & shaving him does he do this with? I need some helpful suggestions please. I'm a bit, not only confused by this behaviour, but why he continues to do this for the one giving him the most amount of care?
Is the person you are having trouble with ill? Does he have medical and/or mental problems? There are many things that could be causing his behavior. Raising your voice would be my last option. In fact, I'd rule that out completely.