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How probate done depends on your states laws. TX is a level of claim state from class 1 to 9 and paid in the order of class and within 4 years. Not all states do this and many have it as a level claim state.
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Mallory - the paperwork reproduces in the closet!
Everybody has their hands out just waiting for funds, now that is nothing but family fun time. At least you don't have to deal with MERP.

Have you opened probate? If so or if not, when you do get extra Letters Testamentary for every family member and with them send a short note (along with the LT) that states what the allowable time frame is for probate is in your state (put in your states administrative code reference on this just to keep the bs down) and that probate and settlement will happen within that timeframe. Put in something about mom in the note - like "we all miss her smile and the deviled eggs she was famous for".

These you send certified with return receipt (the green card) from USPO to every member of the family. Will run abt $ 7.00. Keep the receipt as this is an administrate cost of the estate - & you as executor get reimbursed for these costs (unless you are paying from an estate of account that has $). puts everbody on notice and equal.

Give hubby a big hug & whatever else too, he's a gem to be there and wading though paperwork with you.
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Interesting. My will, on the other hand, instructs the executor to immediately give out $10,000 each to the major beneficiaries of my estate. Money comes in handy and no reason why it can't be done like that.
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Keep detailed records of all the time you spend on the estate. It is my understanding that the executor is entitled to reimbursement through the probate.
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Mallory, typically a Trust or Will will state that expenses of the last illness need to be paid before any distribution to heirs. Check your mother's to see if it also establishes that expenses of estate administration (which could include cleaning out the house) are also in that category. If so, just tell the other heirs that - there's no reason why they can't wait.
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Mallory, I do not envy you at all in this position! I provided care for the folks for four years until the family situation became more than I cared to deal with any longer. One of the twisted sisters has Mom's POA's that are to pass to successor if she is not able to handle things responsibly. That second person is me. But, now I am done and kept out of the loop on anything related to Mom either health or financial wise. This is purely vindictive on ts part, but in a way I think that is ok, even though she is not handling things as responsibly as she should. I did my time!

But you, to have done the care and now taking care if the estate! And now the sibs that you would have appreciated help from, never heard them say "what can I do?", are now coming out of the woodwork, literally! WORMS!

I would put my phone on ignore, send them an email telling them this is a huge job and offer to report progress maybe monthly. The trust may require some sort of reporting anyway. Do what the trust tells you to do nothing more! If necessary send sibs and whoever else the portionof the trust if there is anything related to reporting requirements.

My sib has one heck of a mess! She has the position now needs to put together fifteen years of records. She just did not understand what her responsibilities were to my mom! Now she is overwhelmed! And if you don't mind me saying so, deservedly so!
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