My husband and I took care of his 96 year old mother for 16 months. 9 months in I was burnt out and depressed, yet my husband insisted we had to keep continuing to care for her. As of May 1st She's now in assisted living as the situation was affecting our marriage, and we were both burnt out to the point where we couldn't do it anymore and wanted to have our lives and freedom back. My husband works a job that has him leaving town a few days a week which left me on my own to take care of her. She was often times verbally abusive towards me, took advantage of me, and treated me like a slave. His sister was of no help unless we forced her to buy a plane ticket to take over for us so we could have a break. Fast forward to now our marriage is still being affected by this whole thing as she calls us several times a day, we can't get any peace. On top of it all my husband spends a pretty significant amount of time during the week at the assisted living facility with her, sometimes 4 days a week. I now often times feel like he's choosing his mother over me, help!!! We've barely been in a relationship for 4 years, married for almost 2 of those years.