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My boyfriends mother is on waiver so caregivers are supposed to come to the house 6 hours a day. The problem is her husband touches and makes inappropriate comments to the caregivers and myself so many refuse to come back to the house. We have had many meetings about this and the agency stated they will not send caregivers unless im here the entire time to monitor his behavior and have threatened to pull out completely. We are on our 8th agency because the others have left because of the situation. I had him put on medication for it and we have lectured him repeatedly. Telling him no only makes the situation worse. Has anyone else had to deal with this type of situation or have any suggestions on how to resolve it?

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Inappropriate sexual behaviour is a symptom of dementia. Has he been tested by a neurophycologist? At any rate, I agree that agencies have to pull their employees out of homes where they are being subjected to any inappropriate physical contact by client/clients family.
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They both need care but the caregivers are for her. The commission on aging pulled out his bath help due to inappropriate touching. He has copd, liver failure,etc. He should be in hospice but his wife doesnt want more workers in home. He does not have dementia but is hard of hearing so he uses that to his advantage. Both of them came from germany after ww2 and have extremely different beliefs than someone who was born in us mostly gender roles. So the problem is he finds his actions acceptable.
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The husband needs to be confined to Memory Care. He is obviously not able to stop himself or remember that he is not allowed to touch others. Sorry, but all agencies are obliged to protect their employees from sexual predators. If you don't do this, sooner or later he will be jailed or sued or both.
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Is it your boyfriend's mother who needs the caregivers or her husband? What are his medical issues? If he has dementia, then the caregivers are usually trained on how to deal with this type of situation. Surprised you went through so many Agencies that couldn't help.
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