Many posters on this site seem to think they have an obligation to provide care up close and personal to those who abuse them - why is this? Where do they think this obligation comes from? I recall a deacon at my church who got up during the sermon and addressed this topic - he insisted his mother move into an AL because she did not respect his wife and therefore he did not want to care for her in his home (which she wanted). We do have a basic obligation of care to our parents - but this does NOT mean we have to put up with abuse.
You do not have to age to be helpless.
All you need is an act of a stroke, heart attack,
of course like the one commercial said,
you don't get a post it note telling you
that something bad is going to happen,
it just happens sometimes sooner for others.