This one is detailed but I need some advice... I am my mother's only child and have been her DPOA for over 3 years now. She has dementia and is not incompetent at this time, vu land at my family members request, she now levees with her and I pay her for my mine care $3400 monthly ( which is by the way all she received monthly) my father died in Jean 2010, and my mother hadn't worked since 2001 so she has little assets. Long story short money that was saved for me, my mother and I agreed to use that now with him gone for us on our joint acct. We have always been close and always been a team. About half of the money was for me and the other was spent in Atty fees used to fight for the estate for my father, bankruptcy protection for foreclosure on their house (which she let go) as well as an assisted living facility that was about $1500 more than her monthly income. Needless to say, if we had known her condition would be the way it is now, back then, we would have made different choices. My family member is paid to care for her daily care and I have her on every other weekend with me and when needed. But now the family member has fraudulently gained access to our acct because they always suspected my mother had all this money and I was holding out, and now is trying to accuse me of depleting her money when it was commingled years ago and we never changed it. She wants to seek guardianship, and I do not want to have to seek an Atty to fight her, what should I do?