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Recently went to visit a former client who has a caregiver that is taking him for granted. She has moved in to his home. She has removed his late wifes decorations from the walls. The house is a complete mess. He was dirty & had on dirty clothes. I sat down with him & asked how he felt about all of this. He says that isn't anything we can do. He almost feels like he is stuck with her. She has him wrapped around her finger. She tells everyone the same old story. Her son killed himself back in may of 07 then that same year her husband left her. I told her that everyone has a hard life that is what makes us stronger. I know what is like to lose a child & be divorced but I moved on & now am remarried with 2 beautiful boys but she didn't want positive feedback she wanted sympathy. I left that crying cause I felt so guilty for not being around more. I wrote his son a letter telling him what I saw. I guess I'm asking is, Did I do the right thing?

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Them being married would be the frosting on the cake. I don't believe so they are but she is in his will. But I told his son that she can be removed its not set in stone.
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Thank you so both very much. I also wrote in the letter that I'm not trying to take het job but if it came down to it I would take him back asap.
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I hope the family can get rid of her. Is she also his girlfriend now, or a hired make-believe caregiver? Losing a child and divorce are no excuses for elder abuse/neglect. It may be she has told your former client that it either her or a NH and he believes her.
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ABSOLUTELY you did the right thing.... and kudos to you for saying something... I hope the son responds quickly and if not write him again... bug him until he does something... very proud of you.... please let us know how this turns out..... hugs and respect sent to you....
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