Often their upset & worry, or desire to swoop in & fix things doesn't help. Sometimes I need to share about what's currently going on in our lives, what developments there have been in my husband's behavior. He has Alzheimer's-type dementia. I deal with it on a day to day basis, but when I share, sometimes all I need is a listening ear. But some behavior is very bizarre and upsetting for someone who isn't dealing with it on a day-to-day basis. Heck, it's bizarre and upsetting to me too, but because I am dealing with it all the time, it doesn't come as such a shock to me.
Maybe I need to be communicating with people more on an ongoing basis.